Holidays can be hard on everyone. The routines you are used to get all turned around, people who you barely know visit and want to play with your things, give you hugs and make lots of noise. Your parents may be nervous and you might pick up part of their mood to add onto your own. There are ways you can make holidays easier and more enjoyable. Some things you can do on your own, but others will need your parents help. Find a time before things get hectic to sit and talk with them and let them know what you are feeling. They can’t help if they do not know something disturbs you.
On your own, take a look around your room. If there are things you really don’t want to share because they are special or you are afraid they may be broken, carefully put them away in a drawer or the closet. This way, if other kids visit, you won’t have to worry about these things. Think about places in your home that are more likely to be quiet. Not having a place to get away from the festivities will make you feel more upset. If you know beforehand that there is some quiet place to go to, you will be able to relax easier.
Many bipolar people don’t like to be touched a lot. While your great grandmother may be hurt if you don’t give her a hug, other friends and relatives may be happy with a handshake. Talk with your parents about this. Let them know if hugs from others make you uncomfortable and ask if they can discuss this with others before they arrive. A simple handshake and smile will go a long way in showing adults not only respect, but also acknowledgment of their feelings. This could be the best way to keep everyone, including you, feeling happy.
You don’t have to figure out everything all by yourself. Parents usually want to help and will be glad you came to talk with them. They want you to enjoy the holidays. Holidays happen, we can’t change that and probably wouldn’t want to. They don’t have to be horrible events to endure, but can be pleasant happenings with a little bit of planning.
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